Heart of Life/Coeur de la vie: Day/Jour II

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Heart of Life/Coeur de la vie: Day/Jour II

Another busy morning here in Montreuil, where today there is sun instead of rain. My nose is running. I’ve already had two cups of black tea. A friend is coming soon for lunch and I have no idea what we’ll eat. I’m sure we will eat, though. How fortunate we are.

Thank you for posting your impressions of Day I and how the spirituality aspect of our lives was/is present for you in the heart of your life. From this base, as we develop awareness of oneness rather than focussing on differences, anything is possible. Keep sitting! Now we’re ready for our next course.

The second course in the supreme meal of our life is study and learning. We study and learn to develop sharpness and intelligence. « People usually study before they begin something, » Bernie writes, « but I like my study of things, be they livelihood, social action or spirituality, to be simultaneous with my practice of livelihood, social action or spirituality. In this way, study is never merely abstract. » (« D’habitude, avant de se lancer dans quelque chose, nous étudions, » Bernie écrit. « Pour ma part, lorsque j’étudie un sujet, comme les moyens d’existence, l’action social ou la spiritualité, j’aime que l’étude et ma pratique des moyens d’existence, de l’action sociale ou de la spiritualité soient simultanées. L’étude n’est alors jamais une pure abstraction. »)

In Zen, the attitude we aim for when learning and studying is what we call Beginner’s Mind (l’esprit du débutant), or not-knowing. This allows us to be open and to inquire freely, without the limitations of an expert’s concepts and fixed positions. In Zen, our field of study is the self, as the 13th-century master Dogen said. We study the self right here in the heart of our life and activities – where else could we do it?

So today, find a moment to begin your study of yourself by looking at your own characteristics and traits, without judging whether they are good or bad; take a look at yourself, make an inventory, a list, of the characteristics you see (lazy, timid, loud, adventurous, funny, stubborn, shy, self-righteous, short-tempered, earnest, cold, warm, friendly, serious, hard-working, arrogant, naive, curious, etc.). Our meditation practice helps us to cultivate Beginner’s Mind/not-knowing, so that we can see ourselves (and others) more clearly and without judgment. We thus can see that these concepts we have about ourselves are nothing but our concepts about ourselves!

Next, share this list with others, for example post it on the blog… This is a practice of both accepting and letting go, so that we can be free to act appropriately according to whatever circumstances arise. (That video portrait of the many faces of Bernie that I posted on Sunday is a beautiful manifestation of just this.)

If we don’t judge, we can see these characteristics or traits as our ingredients, Bernie suggests. We can learn how to work with them and let go of them. Bernie notes, for example, that he is stubborn, but that stubbornness can become tenacity in his practice and work, in the preparation of his supreme meal.

What are your ingredients? Please bring them to our table here!

By | 2018-11-13T11:46:18+00:00 novembre 13th, 2018|La pratique Zen, Retraites au coeur de la vie|26 Comments

About the Author:

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Enseignante Zen et poète, Sensei Amy “Tu es cela” Hollowell est née et a grandi à Minneapolis, aux Etats-Unis. Arrivée en France en 1981 pour étudier la littérature et l’histoire, elle y est restée, s’installant à Paris, où elle élève ses deux enfants et gagne sa vie en tant que journaliste. The Zen teacher and poet Amy “Tu es cela” Hollowell Sensei was born and raised in Minneapolis, but came to France in 1981 to study literature and history and has lived in Paris ever since, raising her two children and making a living as a journalist.

26 Comments

  1. Filipa 14 novembre 2018 at 22 h 42 min - Reply

    In Stuttgart, 1*C, it feels cold “as hell” (in my perspective).
    After reading all the previous posts/characteristics I’m under their influence… but anyway the ones that often come to mind: laziness, judging others and myself (and this reminds me I can’t understand why some people seem to avoid this challenges Amy Roshi proposes us), serious and trustworthy, humble and caring, undecided, selfish with somethings, giving with others… afraid and fearless.
    There’s more, but these are the ones I can clearly identify in my life right now.
    I’m so grateful to have read yours and realize we are so much alike… thank you.
    Ps. I’m very sorry I’m one day behind… But here I am. I’m doing the best I can! 😉

  2. Filipa Mora 14 novembre 2018 at 19 h 17 min - Reply

    Porto, Portugal

    (notes on paper, PC just now, I’m sorry)

    Wow.
    I will just share the first thing that happened in my mind reading all this.
    BLACKBIRD, The Beatles.

    Serendipity, curiosity. Gentle. Tender voice.
    Be gentle and kind, find balance between body and mind…and the whole! That has been my mantra these days. One thing I understood lately…My anger and sadness are the same, my arrogance is my inner child trying to look smart all over the time, because of that need of acceptance from everybody. Ahhhh. Such a freedom working on that… The more I practice the more I realize the more I need to practice 🙂

    Hug *

  3. Bénédicte 14 novembre 2018 at 17 h 07 min - Reply

    Loud, very loud, too loud

  4. Guillaume 14 novembre 2018 at 10 h 36 min - Reply

    Paris, Wednesday morning as work.
    I read the post yesterday but didn’t write anything. I’m sorry, I’ll pass this assignment. Defenses are way too high there and I’ve learned that trying to bypass them leads nowhere nice.

  5. emmanuelle 14 novembre 2018 at 10 h 28 min - Reply

    Hi,
    It was nice to practice with you yesterday.
    How can i describe me ? It’s always the two faces of the medal :
    – imaginatvive / most of the time out of life and a big dreamer
    – reliable / mistruthful
    – i easily find the default on me and others, critics / i have a sharp eye
    – full of fear and anxious / resistant
    – shy / a bit eccentric in my life (or maybe i wish :))
    Not sure it’s an accurate portrait.
    Have a nice day

  6. Debbie 14 novembre 2018 at 9 h 12 min - Reply

    OOOOps… alone. And there are lots of times when the computer world is beyond my control, like just now.

    Also a strong moment at noon when we are all silent for a minute.

    See you there.

  7. Debbie 14 novembre 2018 at 9 h 09 min - Reply

    Good morning fellow travelers on this path through the heart of our lives. It’s such a pleasure knowing that when I sat this morning I was sitting with you all.
    I’ve always thought how strange it is that just as we can’t see our own face, we can’t always see our own character. I mean, this is me, and yet who this is often remains a mystery!
    What do I know about myself? That I’m a composite of contradictory elements. I can persevere forever and then suddenly drop out. I can have long periods when everything seems humorous and deliciously silly and equally long moments when the dilemmas of the world appear to me as deadly serious. There are times when I want to hold everyone close and others when I need to be

  8. Joy 14 novembre 2018 at 8 h 18 min - Reply

    My ingridients…maybe a handful but pungent.

    Sensitive, attentive, caring
    Self righteous, just, proactive, controlling, self indulgent
    Shy, self conscious, self critical
    Sturbbon, jealous, arrogant, vindictive, unforgiving, judgemental
    Fearful, gullible, impatient
    Curious, adventurous
    Organized, reliable, persistent,

    And Deadly serious!!

  9. Lara 14 novembre 2018 at 6 h 16 min - Reply

    Very impatient.

  10. João 14 novembre 2018 at 2 h 11 min - Reply

    João, in Cova da Piedade, Portugal
    There is a book in the corridor here in my house, which I borrowed some time ago but never read. It’s not stuck between the others, but on top of them, so I can see it’s cover when I pass there. It’s called How to See Yourself as You Really Are. I pass it by all the time. Today, after reading Roshi’s proposal for this second day, I thought: « Finally! »
    So, the list:
    Lazy, harsh on myself, sad, very sensitive, harsh with others, insecure, lonely, sometimes dedicated in an exagerated sort of way, fearful of life, fearful or people, sometimes funny, when feeling sad I like to cry all I need to, impatient, patient, undisciplined, generous, selfish, sometimes giving myself a hard time for trying to do the right thing and sometimes not caring at all about that, having the need to have someone to take care of, gentle but also hard.

  11. óscar faria 14 novembre 2018 at 1 h 21 min - Reply

    ///hitting and shouting///

    they arrived at noon
    garden time/ w.s.merwin
    this present moment/ gary snyder

    read some poems &
    bought food to my kitten

    worth even the smell
    the broken boiler
    sync with the royal observatory
    &
    asking ansewering
    spiritual practice should open
    eyes
    hearts
    minds

    prepare the best meal possible

    why not sneeze?

  12. Alberto Pereira 14 novembre 2018 at 0 h 52 min - Reply

    Boa noite a todos,
    Porque o meu inglês não é digno de ser escrito. Vou usar a língua de Luís de Camões, para partilhar convosco aquilo que penso ter sido o dia de hoje. Pode parecer estranho alguém dizer « aquilo que penso ter sido ». Mas …hoje, foi o dia? Um dia? Ou mais um dia? Não sei responder. Mas sei que mais um dia, é menos um dia. E o tempo não espera por ninguém.
    Uma característica que me caracteriza, nesta fase, talvez uma das minhas melhores amigas, é a PREGUIÇA. É persuasiva e tem justificações para tudo.
    Até amanhã se for o caso. E boas práticas.

  13. sarah 14 novembre 2018 at 0 h 24 min - Reply

    ……confident, shy, energising, tiring, joyful, sad, hardworking, lazy, friendly, loving, harsh, sensitive, funny…..

  14. Catherine 13 novembre 2018 at 23 h 42 min - Reply

    After a day of rushing around, I logged on half an hour before the end of the day to learn about today’s assignment. What did I observe of myself today? I observed my curiousity, my attentiveness to being present, to being compassionate, particularly as I observe myself with my specific intention of cultivating these characteristics. I observed my curiousity, and my patience with my own self-judgement, as I felt myself, just a bit, starting to autoflageolate and stopped myself with my metaphorical arm in mid-air with the conscious self offering an alternative « be kind to yourself ».

  15. Telma Veras 13 novembre 2018 at 23 h 37 min - Reply

    About yesterday and first course & About today and second course…
    My day everyday starts with sitting. Everyday i learn that i have to do it again because i never know how to do it. I sit and sometimes i fall asleep, other times i see figures on the white wall, others i reflect about and everytime i remind mySelf « breathe, watch you breathing ». Once i finish i remember myself that i must ask Roshi how to do it and still didn’t… The more i do it the less i know how to do it. it’s like relating to people. I do it again and again and most of the time i doubt If i know how to do it.
    It’s this great doubts that elas me to the second course.
    Learning and studying. I’ve formally quited school last september with the presentation of my master’s dissertation but i consider myself a student since i have counscious of « me » hoping one day i’ll be able to teach something.
    Yesterday, when i watched Bernie’s video i thought: « i have so much to learn ». I do. I didn’t know that we study and learn to develop sharpness and intellingence » ’cause my intention was always to become a better self.
    If i hope to before a better self is probably ’cause my list of characteristics was filled of judgemental purpose… Thank you Roshi for your sentence « we thus can see that these concepts we have about ourselves are nothing but our concepts about ourselves! », i must remind myself to remind it everyday.
    I really loved Bernie’s concept underneath « instructions to the cook ».
    It was hard to leave bed in the morning and it’s so easy to return to it and great part of the reason is the counsciousness that i’ve testified how Nature manifests her Self time and time and time again without complaining without making it something bigger that anything that Is. I’ m really greatfull for Being and learning to Be until the day i join Nature in her’s supreme wisdom.

    Introvertida, social, resiliente, persistente, impulsiva, reactiva, curiosa, chata, inquiridora, melancólica, poeta, sensível, forte, fraca, pequena, grande, gulosa, disciplinada, apaixonada, triste, feliz, polémica, maternal, feminina, trabalhadora, preguiçosa, exigente, metódica, organizada, arrumada, asseada, simples, prática, critica, séria, simpática, bruta, antipática, transparente, frontal … Tudo e nada.

  16. Telma 13 novembre 2018 at 23 h 36 min - Reply

    About yesterday and first course & About today and second course…
    My day everyday starts with sitting. Everyday i learn that i have to do it again because i never know how to do it. I sit and sometimes i fall asleep, other times i see figures on the white wall, others i reflect about and everytime i remind mySelf « breathe, watch you breathing ». Once i finish i remember myself that i must ask Roshi how to do it and still didn’t… The more i do it the less i know how to do it. it’s like relating to people. I do it again and again and most of the time i doubt If i know how to do it.
    It’s this great doubts that elas me to the second course.
    Learning and studying. I’ve formally quited school last september with the presentation of my master’s dissertation but i consider myself a student since i have counscious of « me » hoping one day i’ll be able to teach something.
    Yesterday, when i watched Bernie’s video i thought: « i have so much to learn ». I do. I didn’t know that we study and learn to develop sharpness and intellingence » ’cause my intention was always to become a better self.
    If i hope to before a better self is probably ’cause my list of characteristics was filled of judgemental purpose… Thank you Roshi for your sentence « we thus can see that these concepts we have about ourselves are nothing but our concepts about ourselves! », i must remind myself to remind it everyday.
    I really loved Bernie’s concept underneath « instructions to the cook ».
    It was hard to leave bed in the morning and it’s so easy to return to it and great part of the reason is the counsciousness that i’ve testified how Nature manifests her Self time and time and time again without complaining without making it something bigger that anything that Is. I’ m really greatfull for Being and learning to Be until the day i join Nature in her’s supreme wisdom.

    Introvertida, social, resiliente, persistente, impulsiva, reactiva, curiosa, chata, inquiridora, melancólica, poeta, sensível, forte, fraca, pequena, grande, gulosa, disciplinada, apaixonada, triste, feliz, polémica, maternal, feminina, trabalhadora, preguiçosa, exigente, metódica, organizada, arrumada, asseada, simples, prática, critica, séria, simpática, bruta, antipática, transparente, frontal … Tudo e nada.

  17. Miguel 13 novembre 2018 at 23 h 08 min - Reply

    In the morning i sat in lisbon, heavy in the body, silente in the mind. Back at home in the woods of Colares i sat with that heavyness, in the afternoon, and there was something hurting, sadness and anger. As i saw the the dancing of oneness producing this waves, they dissolved more and more.
    Later, something else came and i point it now as the characteristic that was more obvious in the mind ( not in the action) today. It is an amoral way of looking at the world that can do things thar hurt people, including myself, without realizing it. It’s qualities are that this aspect can appreciate the present moment without judging anything or anyone. +

  18. Adrien 13 novembre 2018 at 23 h 06 min - Reply

    Good evening friends and fellow practitionners!
    I didn’t find the time to post yestarday but was immensely grateful to read all yours today and fully enter into the shared space of this retreat in the Heart of Life. Thank you all. Thank you Amy for creating this manifest reminder of the fact that our lives and experiences are sacred.
    Having moved from Paris and therefore lost regular physical touch with the Sangha, I have tried to cultivate this quality of relationship into my daily experience, interactions and activities. To some success and some deviation, with as little judgment as possible of either, simply coming back to my core when I notice imballance, like coming back to my breathing during Zazen.
    I’m ill today and that has been a timely opportunity to rest, sit, sit back and gain perspective. Slowly getting better has felt and feels like being born again, like a new sun is rising, like letting go of a past version of myself and starting over, cleansed and rested, ready.
    So I’m born again, through my wounds and into boundless generosity, gratitude, devotion and Love, to serve and be served, to care and be cared for, to grow and help grow, beyond my concepts about myself, across the tide of emotions and into the light, humble and blessed.
    Yours, with Love

  19. sarah 13 novembre 2018 at 22 h 44 min - Reply

    I tried to write some characteristics and judgements came flooding in…such that I am no longer sure whether the words that come to mind are sponsored by judgement …..or not….I am lost in a sea of …..words!

  20. lisa 13 novembre 2018 at 22 h 43 min - Reply

    Studying the self, a vast and endless program. I remember during a retreat seeing myself peeling off layers of me, my anger, my self-righteousness, my lack of confidence, my sharpness, my wanting to be perfect, my attention to others, my wanting to please, my… my… layers after layers of me, always discovering more! what liberation to realize that these ideas of me are just concepts, to be just this, now. Fleeting moments.
    Lisa in Paris

  21. Isabela 13 novembre 2018 at 22 h 22 min - Reply

    at the same village as yesterday.
    black
    white
    one
    eyed
    the cyclonic dance of fruit trees shadows
    fruits falling
    picking
    putting on a table
    cutting
    cut.

  22. Tiago 13 novembre 2018 at 22 h 19 min - Reply

    Today, with a table covered in the finest cloth of practice the first course came out late: the cook overslept! After this change in my carefully prepared menu the day before, I found most ingredients missing and had to go shopping for an eventful day of different meals and guests to attend to. What a perfect day it was/is!
    Through the retreat lenses I stressed and gasped, and was fearful and mad with anger and able to let go as these came to the table. Fear was the ingredient with the strongest flavour but was able to transform it into efficiency and focus.
    In studying and learning on the act of doing and practicing I feel my boundaries disappear as I go out of my comfort zone into the not-knowing.
    What a day!

  23. Teresa 13 novembre 2018 at 21 h 42 min - Reply

    On behalf of Fernando Pessoa

    1. I’m a keeper of sheep. (Sou um guardador de rebanhos.)
    2. I’m nothing. (Não sou nada.)
    3. I prefer to be taken seriously for what I’m not, remaining humanly unknown, with naturalness and all due respect. (Prefiro ser tomado a sério como o que não sou, ignorado humanamente, com decência e naturalidade.)
    4. I’m the gap between what I’d like to be and what others have made me. (Sou o intervalo entre o que desejo ser e os outros me fizeram.)
    5. I’m all those things, even though I don’t want to, in the confuse depth of my fatal sensibility. (Sou todas essas coisas, embora o não queira, no fundo confuso da minha sensibilidade fatal.)
    6. For I am the size of what I see not my height’s size. (Porque eu sou do tamanho do que vejo.)
    7. It’s been a long time since I’ve been me. (Há muito tempo que não sou eu.)
    8. Who am I to myself? Just a feeling of mine. (Quem sou eu para mim? Só uma sensação minha.)
    9. My God, my God, who am I attending to? How many am I? Who is me? What is this interval between me and me? (Meu Deus, meu Deus, a quem assisto? Quantos sou? Quem é eu? O que é este intervalo que há entre mim e mim?)
    10. I’m a man for whom the outside world is an inner reality. (Sou um homem para quem o mundo exterior é uma realidade interior.)

  24. Antonio Jose 13 novembre 2018 at 15 h 48 min - Reply

    I’m nothing.
    I’ll always be nothing.
    I can’t want to be something.
    But I have in me all the dreams of the world.

    Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself, I am large, I contain multitudes.

    Therefore, this is what I am:

    Accessible
    Active
    Adaptable
    Admirable
    Adventurous
    Agreeable
    Alert
    Allocentric
    Amiable
    Anticipative
    Appreciative
    Articulate
    Aspiring
    Athletic
    Attractive
    Balanced
    Benevolent
    Brilliant
    Calm
    Capable
    Captivating
    Caring
    Challenging
    Charismatic
    Charming
    Cheerful
    Clean
    Clear-headed
    Clever
    Colorful
    Companionly
    Compassionate
    Conciliatory
    Confident
    Conscientious
    Considerate
    Constant
    Contemplative
    Cooperative
    Courageous
    Courteous
    Creative
    Cultured
    Curious
    Daring
    Debonair
    Decent
    Decisive
    Dedicated
    Deep
    Dignified
    Directed
    Disciplined
    Discreet
    Dramatic
    Dutiful
    Dynamic
    Earnest
    Ebullient
    Educated
    Efficient
    Elegant
    Eloquent
    Empathetic
    Energetic
    Enthusiastic
    Esthetic
    Exciting
    Extraordinary
    Fair
    Faithful
    Farsighted
    Felicific
    Firm
    Flexible
    Focused
    Forecful
    Forgiving
    Forthright
    Freethinking
    Friendly
    Fun-loving
    Gallant
    Generous
    Gentle
    Genuine
    Good-natured
    Gracious
    Hardworking
    Healthy
    Hearty
    Helpful
    Herioc
    High-minded
    Honest
    Honorable
    Humble
    Humorous
    Idealistic
    Imaginative
    Impressive
    Incisive
    Incorruptible
    Independent
    Individualistic
    Innovative
    Inoffensive
    Insightful
    Insouciant
    Intelligent
    Intuitive
    Invulnerable
    Kind
    Knowledge
    Leaderly
    Leisurely
    Liberal
    Logical
    Lovable
    Loyal
    Lyrical
    Magnanimous
    Many-sided
    Masculine (Manly)
    Mature
    Methodical
    Maticulous
    Moderate
    Modest
    Multi-leveled
    Neat
    Nonauthoritarian
    Objective
    Observant
    Open
    Optimistic
    Orderly
    Organized
    Original
    Painstaking
    Passionate
    Patient
    Patriotic
    Peaceful
    Perceptive
    Perfectionist
    Personable
    Persuasive
    Planful
    Playful
    Polished
    Popular
    Practical
    Precise
    Principled
    Profound
    Protean
    Protective
    Providential
    Prudent
    Punctual
    Pruposeful
    Rational
    Realistic
    Reflective
    Relaxed
    Reliable
    Resourceful
    Respectful
    Responsible
    Responsive
    Reverential
    Romantic
    Rustic
    Sage
    Sane
    Scholarly
    Scrupulous
    Secure
    Selfless
    Self-critical
    Self-defacing
    Self-denying
    Self-reliant
    Self-sufficent
    Sensitive
    Sentimental
    Seraphic
    Serious
    Sexy
    Sharing
    Shrewd
    Simple
    Skillful
    Sober
    Sociable
    Solid
    Sophisticated
    Spontaneous
    Sporting
    Stable
    Steadfast
    Steady
    Stoic
    Strong
    Studious
    Suave
    Subtle
    Sweet
    Sympathetic
    Systematic
    Tasteful
    Teacherly
    Thorough
    Tidy
    Tolerant
    Tractable
    Trusting
    Uncomplaining
    Understanding
    Undogmatic
    Unfoolable
    Upright
    Urbane
    Venturesome
    Vivacious
    Warm
    Well-bred
    Well-read
    Well-rounded
    Winning
    Wise
    Witty
    Youthful

    Absentminded
    Aggressive
    Ambitious
    Amusing
    Artful
    Ascetic
    Authoritarian
    Big-thinking
    Boyish
    Breezy
    Businesslike
    Busy
    Casual
    Crebral
    Chummy
    Circumspect
    Competitive
    Complex
    Confidential
    Conservative
    Contradictory
    Crisp
    Cute
    Deceptive
    Determined
    Dominating
    Dreamy
    Driving
    Droll
    Dry
    Earthy
    Effeminate
    Emotional
    Enigmatic
    Experimental
    Familial
    Folksy
    Formal
    Freewheeling
    Frugal
    Glamorous
    Guileless
    High-spirited
    Huried
    Hypnotic
    Iconoclastic
    Idiosyncratic
    Impassive
    Impersonal
    Impressionable
    Intense
    Invisible
    Irreligious
    Irreverent
    Maternal
    Mellow
    Modern
    Moralistic
    Mystical
    Neutral
    Noncommittal
    Noncompetitive
    Obedient
    Old-fashined
    Ordinary
    Outspoken
    Paternalistic
    Physical
    Placid
    Political
    Predictable
    Preoccupied
    Private
    Progressive
    Proud
    Pure
    Questioning
    Quiet
    Religious
    Reserved
    Restrained
    Retiring
    Sarcastic
    Self-conscious
    Sensual
    Skeptical
    Smooth
    Soft
    Solemn
    Solitary
    Stern
    Stoiid
    Strict
    Stubborn
    Stylish
    Subjective
    Surprising
    Soft
    Tough
    Unaggressive
    Unambitious
    Unceremonious
    Unchanging
    Undemanding
    Unfathomable
    Unhurried
    Uninhibited
    Unpatriotic
    Unpredicatable
    Unreligious
    Unsentimental
    Whimsical

    Abrasive
    Abrupt
    Agonizing
    Aimless
    Airy
    Aloof
    Amoral
    Angry
    Anxious
    Apathetic
    Arbitrary
    Argumentative
    Arrogantt
    Artificial
    Asocial
    Assertive
    Astigmatic
    Barbaric
    Bewildered
    Bizarre
    Bland
    Blunt
    Biosterous
    Brittle
    Brutal
    Calculating
    Callous
    Cantakerous
    Careless
    Cautious
    Charmless
    Childish
    Clumsy
    Coarse
    Cold
    Colorless
    Complacent
    Complaintive
    Compulsive
    Conceited
    Condemnatory
    Conformist
    Confused
    Contemptible
    Conventional
    Cowardly
    Crafty
    Crass
    Crazy
    Criminal
    Critical
    Crude
    Cruel
    Cynical
    Decadent
    Deceitful
    Delicate
    Demanding
    Dependent
    Desperate
    Destructive
    Devious
    Difficult
    Dirty
    Disconcerting
    Discontented
    Discouraging
    Discourteous
    Dishonest
    Disloyal
    Disobedient
    Disorderly
    Disorganized
    Disputatious
    Disrespectful
    Disruptive
    Dissolute
    Dissonant
    Distractible
    Disturbing
    Dogmatic
    Domineering
    Dull
    Easily Discouraged
    Egocentric
    Enervated
    Envious
    Erratic
    Escapist
    Excitable
    Expedient
    Extravagant
    Extreme
    Faithless
    False
    Fanatical
    Fanciful
    Fatalistic
    Fawning
    Fearful
    Fickle
    Fiery
    Fixed
    Flamboyant
    Foolish
    Forgetful
    Fraudulent
    Frightening
    Frivolous
    Gloomy
    Graceless
    Grand
    Greedy
    Grim
    Gullible
    Hateful
    Haughty
    Hedonistic
    Hesitant
    Hidebound
    High-handed
    Hostile
    Ignorant
    Imitative
    Impatient
    Impractical
    Imprudent
    Impulsive
    Inconsiderate
    Incurious
    Indecisive
    Indulgent
    Inert
    Inhibited
    Insecure
    Insensitive
    Insincere
    Insulting
    Intolerant
    Irascible
    Irrational
    Irresponsible
    Irritable
    Lazy
    Libidinous
    Loquacious
    Malicious
    Mannered
    Mannerless
    Mawkish
    Mealymouthed
    Mechanical
    Meddlesome
    Melancholic
    Meretricious
    Messy
    Miserable
    Miserly
    Misguided
    Mistaken
    Money-minded
    Monstrous
    Moody
    Morbid
    Muddle-headed
    Naive
    Narcissistic
    Narrow
    Narrow-minded
    Natty
    Negativistic
    Neglectful
    Neurotic
    Nihilistic
    Obnoxious
    Obsessive
    Obvious
    Odd
    Offhand
    One-dimensional
    One-sided
    Opinionated
    Opportunistic
    Oppressed
    Outrageous
    Overimaginative
    Paranoid
    Passive
    Pedantic
    Perverse
    Petty
    Pharissical
    Phlegmatic
    Plodding
    Pompous
    Possessive
    Power-hungry
    Predatory
    Prejudiced
    Presumptuous
    Pretentious
    Prim
    Procrastinating
    Profligate
    Provocative
    Pugnacious
    Puritanical
    Quirky
    Reactionary
    Reactive
    Regimental
    Regretful
    Repentant
    Repressed
    Resentful
    Ridiculous
    Rigid
    Ritualistic
    Rowdy
    Ruined
    Sadistic
    Sanctimonious
    Scheming
    Scornful
    Secretive
    Sedentary
    Selfish
    Self-indulgent
    Shallow
    Shortsighted
    Shy
    Silly
    Single-minded
    Sloppy
    Slow
    Sly
    Small-thinking
    Softheaded
    Sordid
    Steely
    Stiff
    Strong-willed
    Stupid
    Submissive
    Superficial
    Superstitious
    Suspicious
    Tactless
    Tasteless
    Tense
    Thievish
    Thoughtless
    Timid
    Transparent
    Treacherous
    Trendy
    Troublesome
    Unappreciative
    Uncaring
    Uncharitable
    Unconvincing
    Uncooperative
    Uncreative
    Uncritical
    Unctuous
    Undisciplined
    Unfriendly
    Ungrateful
    Unhealthy
    Unimaginative
    Unimpressive
    Unlovable
    Unpolished
    Unprincipled
    Unrealistic
    Unreflective
    Unreliable
    Unrestrained
    Unself-critical
    Unstable
    Vacuous
    Vague
    Venal
    Venomous
    Vindictive
    Vulnerable
    Weak
    Weak-willed
    Well-meaning
    Willful
    Wishful
    Zany

  25. Christine 13 novembre 2018 at 14 h 32 min - Reply

    Hey all !

    What a proposal today : write down your caracteristics and show it to others. Whooo, what a challenge.. You could as well say, get undressed in front of the others and see what happens, right ?
    So quite a good proposition to keep the comments of this post at 0, no ? 🙂
    I’m rather an introvert, so exposing myself is not my cup of tea.
    But as we all are courageous Zen warriors, I’ll through myself into the arena and kick that comment score up to 1, saying : I’m overly sensitive, which caused me a lot of suffering in my past. Now I come more and more to a place where I appreciate that as one of my finest qualities.
    I also was always quite of a serious person, and I’m evolving into a more funny person. Everyone should have a red nose in his pockets, no, Bernie ?!
    And as a Zen student, I’m tempted to say I am /or can be everything, right ?!
    1:0 for me, roshi 🙂
    Just kidding, but I’m curious to read what other warriors have to say…

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